Sunday, September 18, 2011

Owning and Honoring Your Self Space

What is the quickest way to relinquish your power? Loose lips? Chatter box. Divulging too much information. . .things you didn’t necessarily want to share. 

Did you feel the need to fill space? Did it just slip out?

Did you hang up from a phone conversation with your boss or neighbor wishing you could redo the conversation? Like a candle engulfed in flames, did you melt – pouring into the empty space? 

Feel good about your awareness. This reaction you are experiencing is the first step in protecting your energy.

Next time, try imagining a container holding the candle, with firm, clear and comfortable boundaries that keep it from spilling over. Boundaries keep things tidy and you *choose* when you want to pour wax and how much that will be. It will be intentional and purposeful.

It just so happens that every area of life is interrelated, and fits this mold. So, when your home space gets messy and chaotic, when your bills get lost and do not get paid, when you give more of your time than you had planned and it does not feel good, it leaks energy just as when we leak our thoughts and words and regret it later.

An exercise to strengthen your boundary muscles or reinstate boundaries: 

By mindfully doing a physical activity, you can influence more than one area of your life simultaneously. Do you need more order so your intentions are clear and you keep your boundaries intact? Try lovingly and intentionally creating a container that holds various elements, (any liquid and solids). I am personally envisioning a vase where I add some stones from nature, some water and some flowers. The vase is reminiscent of my SELF holding my values with appropriate/feel good boundaries. I can share any contents of the vase when I choose. I can feel good about that.

We usually like to do what feels good, which often times is what we are good at. When we feel good about our action or conversation, we enjoy it more and it comes more easily.

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